ARCHIVES:

1. Welcome Blog (7/14/07) - The truth no one talks about - What happens to your marriage when you realize that Alzheimer's Disease has changed the person you fell in love with - you are now married to a stranger.

2.Meeting Our Emotional Needs (7/17/07) - What to do when your spouse is no longer your partner, cheerleader, lover, and friend?

3.Resentment (7/18/07) - Having to do it all; being married to a child instead of a partner; loneliness

4.Catching My Breath (7/20/07) - A look at upcoming topics and a little humor

5.Positive Notes (7/21- 7/22) - Remembering the person inside the Alzheimer's brain and thankfulness for the good years.

6.Socialization and Friendships (7/23/07) - What to do when Alzheimer's Disease chases your friends away? When friends stop calling.

7.My Sadness - Seeing the Decline in My Husband (7/24/07) - The pain and sadness of losing our spouses piece by piece.

8.Changing Places with My Alzheimer Spouse (7/25/07) - How I learned what it is like to have Alzheimer's Disease

9.Sex and Intimacy (7/26/07)- A subject rarely, if ever, discussed in Support Groups.

10.Sex and Intimacy -Part I - You Don't Feel the Same Desire as Before.(7/27/07)

11.Sex and Intimacy - Part II - (7/28/07 You Want it; Your AD Afflicted Spouse Has No Interest.

12.Mourning The Loss of Your Spouse and Relationship - 7/31/07

13.Lessons from the Neurologist - How to adjust to living with an AD spouse -8/1/07

14.Early Onset Alzheimer's Disease- The unique of problems of these younger spouse 8/2/07

15. Corrections , Other Useful Information and Taking Time For Yourself- AUGUST 3-5, 2007

16. The Loneliness You Feel - August 6, 2007

17.Where Can We Find Patience? - August 7, 2007

18. When it's Time to Place Your Spouse in a Nursing Home - August 9, 2007

19. Richard Taylor Speaks - A view from a person with Alzheimer's Disease - author of the book, Alzheimer's From the Inside Out - August 10, 2007

20.Memory Strategies Part I- Easing the frustration for both you and your spouse - August 13, 2007

21.We're in This Together- Helping each other - August 14, 2007

22.Memory Strategies Part II - How to talk so they will understand

23.Alzheimer's - The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer - August 16, 2007

24.Stress - What causes it and how to deal with it - August 17, 2007

25.A Little Relationship Repair - August 18-19, 2007

26.Alzheimer's Disease - Not What We Expected, August 20th, 2007

27.Exhaustion - The plight of AD spouses - August 21, 2007

28.Time out for Some Worthwhile Information - Finances, Caregiver newsletter, EOAD - August 22, 2007

29. I Don't See Anything Wrong With Him/Her - Words that make you scream - August 23, 2007

30.Being Thankful for the Positive- August 24-26, 2007

31.Memory Strategies for Later Stages - August 27, 2007

32.Loss Of Companionship - August 28, 2007

33.Seeking Companionship - August 29, 2007

34.NEWS AND UPDATES; A POIGNANT LETTER FROM A READER - August 30, 2007

35.Different Friends For Different Times - August 31, 2007

36.Who Will Kill The Bugs? - September 3, 2007

37.Controlling Temper Tantrums - September 4, 2007

38.Acceptance? - September 5, 2007

39.The Driving Issue - September 6, 2007

40.Tranquility - September 7, 2007

41.Traveling With An AD Spouse - September 10, 2007

42.We've Been Robbed By AD - September 14, 2007

43.What To Do With Anger - September 19, 2007

44.Sex - Your Issues & Viewpoints - September 20, 2007

45.Your Life Before AD Fading? - September 21, 2007

46.Take Care Of You! - September 22, 2007

47.Reflections of Our Love - by Dick S. - a tribute to his wife - September 24, 2007

48.Reflections of Our Love - by Joan - September 25, 2007

49.Spirituality and Alzheimer's Disease - September 26, 2007

50. Can Anything Positive Come From this AD Journey - September 27, 2007

51.The Inconsistency of Alzheimer's Disease - A Roller Coaster of Emotions - September 28-30, 2007

52.Coping by Sharing our Emotions - October 1, 2007

53.Alzheimer's Disease and the Unhappy Marriage -October 3, 2007

54.Our Meeting with Richard Taylor, Ph.D - October 4, 2007

55.When Your Spouse Behaves Like a Child - How do you relate to them? - October 5, 2007

56.Endless Love - October 6/7, 2007

57. One Year Anniversary of Diagnosis - How have we changed? How have we coped?

58.Letting Your Spouse Be All They Can Be - Balance between safety and self-esteem - October 9, 2007

59.Finances - Information and Links - October 10, 2007

60.I Miss My Husband - October 11, 2007

61.The Woof Factor - Should you get a dog to keep your AD spouse company? - October 12-14, 2007

62.Forming New Friendships When Your Spouse Has AD - October 16, 2007

63.Reaching Out to the Spouses of the Newly Diagnosed -The importance of giving back the support we have received. - October 17, 2007

64.Sometimes All We Can Do is Cry - October 18, 2007

65.A Great Big Thank You - appreciation for those who comforted me - October 19, 2007

66.Yes, We Do Understand How The Loss of Freedom Makes Our AD Spouse Feel - An open letter to my husband- October 21-21, 2007

67.San Francisco Bound - Traveling to visit our son - October 22-23, 2007

68.Our Son Understands, So Why Am I in Tears? - October 23-24, 2007

69.Update from San Francisco - October 26-28, 2007

70.I'm Back for Halloween - October 31, 2007

71.Conflicting Emotions - Ours and those of our adult children - support from some; denial and distancing from others - November 2, 2007

72.AD and Physical Disabilities - A Double Whammy - November 5, 2007

73.Get a Life! - A necessity for AD Spouses- before AD robs both your spouse AND you of your life - November 6, 2007

74.How Alzheimer's Disease Impacts Each Marriage Differently - November 7, 2007

75.Give Me Some Breathing Room - Please! - My spouse won't give me any time to myself - November 8, 2007

76.Something I Really Miss about my spouse- The Blog that was too painful to be written - November 9, 2007

77.Lessons from the Caregiving Conference - Positive Caregiving - November 10/11, 2007

78.Lessons from the Caregiving Conference- Part II - Humor - November 12, 2007

79.A Little Humor - Smile- It's Good for You - November 13, 2007

80.Justice Sandra Day O'Connor - Her AD Husband's New Love - How Would We React? - November 14/15, 2007

81.Sadness - So sad for the loss of our emotional bond - November 16, 2007

82.The Professionals Need to Listen to Us - AD spouses speak up for what you need - November 17/18, 2007

83.When Your Spouse is Trying to Hold Onto Their Cognition - November 19, 2007

84.Thanksgiving - Being thankful for what you still have - November 21/22, 2007

85.Replace Frustration with Calm - Lesson from someone who knows what AD is like - November 23/24, 2007

86.My Plans to Help you Have a Stress-free Holiday Season- November 25/26, 2007

87.The Emotional Divorce - Letting go of the emotional bond in order to be a better caregiver - November 27, 2007

88.The Bond That Cannot Be Broken - A differing opinion on the Emotional Divorce- November 28, 2007

89.Just When You Think You've Settled into the AD Routine - BAM! Something New Crops Up - November 29, 2007

90.E-Mails Keep Pouring in on The Nursing Home Issue - To place your spouse or not - December 4, 2007

91.When Your AD Spouse's Physical Problems Send Them to the Hospital - December 5/6, 2007

92. An AD Spouse in the Hospital - A Learning Experience - December 7, 2007

93.Aloneness - It's different from loneliness - December 10, 2007

94.Not Ready for Daycare - Nowhere to go and nothing to do - December 13, 2007

95.Alzheimer Cruise Planning - Our "Normal Night" - December 15/16, 2007

96.Reflections on the Bad Days - A Plumbing Nightmare- December 17, 2007

97.Slipping from Sadness into Depression - How to avoid it - December 20, 2007

98.The Last Big Trip - Taking a trip before it's too late - December 21, 2007

99.Merry Christmas - December 24/25, 2007

100. AD Issues to the Forefront - My interview for a CNN article about Alzheimer's Disease and Marriage - December 26, 2007

101. Sid speaks - A Glimpse into His World of AD - December 27, 2007

102. Behind the Scenes - 2008 plans for the website - December 29/30, 2007

103. New Year's Blog 2008- There can be improvement in a marriage with an AD spouse - December 31/January 1, 2008

103. Anchors Aweigh - Alzheimer Cruise Bound - January 2/3, 2008

104.The Alzheimer Cruise – Joy, Sadness, and Humor - January 8/9, 2008

105. Last Stages - The Final Heartache - January 10, 2008

106. Emotional Issues Related to the End Stages - January 11, 2008

107.Building Walls Around our Emotions Can Backfire - January 14, 2008

108. Straddling Two Worlds - the Alzheimer world and "normal world". - January 15, 2008

109.Happy 6 Month Anniversary to This Website - future plans revealed - January 16, 2008

110.My Husband, My Hero - Still some things he can do for me - January 17, 2008

111.A PLEA FROM RICHARD TAYLOR - "EMBRACE THE PERSON AS THEY ARE AND NOT WISH THEM TO BE WHAT THEY ONCE WERE." - January 19/20, 2008

112. The Bucket List - Realize your dreams before it is too late -January 21, 2008

113. An Essay on Stress - But do we escape it? - January 22, 2008

114. Groundhog Day - An AD spouse repeats and repeats - January 23, 2008

115. Portraits of Alzheimer's Disease - Stunning self portraits by the artist, William Utermohlen as he descended into Alzheimer's Disease - January 24, 2008

116. A Poem by "carewife" on her spouse "losing" his identity - January 25, 2008

117. AD and Anesthesia - A Link/A Cause of Progression? - January 26/27, 2008

118. Anesthesia and Me - My experience with anesthesia and cognitive confusion - January 28, 2008

119. I Am Angry! - The frustration and anger at what this disease has done to my life, my marriage, my husband - January 29, 2008

120. We Only Have The Moment - Our love can no longer be nurtured by memories; we only have the moment of joy with our spouses. - January 30, 2008

121. Too Much Upheaval for Me - Sometimes it is just too much to handle - February 1, 2008

122. Seeking Tranquility - Trying to find some peace in the midst of the AD storm - February 2/3, 2008

123. The Neurology Appointment - Discussing the driving problem - February 4/5, 2008

124. AD - A Destroyer of the Spirit as Well as the Mind - February 7, 2008

125. Our Reader's Tell Their Stories - Two inspiring stories from "Tony" and "Mary" about their experiences with their spouses' EOAD. - February 9/10, 2008

126. Help for the Newly Diagnosed - Where to turn - good information for all of us - February 11, 2008

127. CNN.com Article Clarification - My response to the CNN.com article - February 12/13, 2008

128.Our Driving Test Experience - An emotional day - February 14, 2008

129. The Emotional Pain of Letting Go - letting go of the relationship you had - February 15, 2008

130. Thank You For Your Support - helping through the "letting go". - February 16, 2008

131. February Updates and Information - February 18, 2008

132. Leaving the World of AD Behind - Escaping into a fantasy world for a short time - February 19, 2008

133. Seeking Outside Therapy - What to do when support groups aren't enough - February 20, 2008

134. Seeking Companionship - Tom and Mary's Story - Tom's letter to his children explaining his new love - February 21/22, 2008

135. Hello Government - Show Me the Money - The importance of research funds - February 23/24, 2008

136. Embarrassing Public Behavior of AD Spouses - what to do - February 25, 2008

137. I Believe I Answered That Question Already - at least 20 times this week!!! - February 26, 2008

138.The Agony of AD Destruction - the emotional pain as AD destroys your marriage - February 28, 2008

139. The Agony of AD Destruction – My Husband's View - February 29, 2008

140. Being Grateful - In spite of all the pain, I am grateful for what I still have with my husband. - March 1/2, 2008

141.Our Reader's Poem on Letting Go - a beautiful poem by a reader who learned to let go of her relationship/ an e-mail from a reader who wishes she spent more time with her now deceased AD husband - March 3/4, 2008

142. Putting the Mental Health of the Spousal Caregiver First - March 5, 2008

143. The Male Spouses of AD Wives - We Salute You - working, learning new household skills, in some cases, bringing up children - their plight and their triumph - March 6, 2008

144. Advice From Our AD Spouses - Whoops! Not Exactly - their difficulty in expression hinders their ability to give opinions and advice - March 7, 2008

145. I Am Someone - Richard Taylor helps us understand how the AD spouse feels - March 8/9, 2008

146. Exercising the Alzheimer Brain - March 10, 2008

147. The Bossy Caregiver Spouse - March 11, 2008

148. The Flip Side of the Bossy Spouse - Enjoying letting someone else take responsibility for a change - March 12, 2008

149. If Our Spouses Were Cured Today - Could we return to the way we were? - March 13/14, 2008

150.I am So Mad at You - But I Don't Remember Why - March 15/16, 2008

151. What to Do About Support Groups - To go or not to go - March 17, 2008

152. Support Groups for the AD Patient - It's important and it's about self-esteem - March 18, 2008

153. It's Different When it's a Spouse - The unique pain of having a spouse with Alzheimer's Disease - March 19, 2008

154. Are We Helping our Spouses to be in Denial? - March 21, 2008

155. Our Fundraiser, Technology Updates, and Website Coming Attractions - March 22/23, 2008

156. Grief -Advice from a reader who recently lost her spouse - March 24, 2008

157. Life After AD - Should you feel guilty thinking about it? - March 25, 2008

158. The Disappearing Conversation - the loneliness of losing conversation with your spouse - March 26, 2008

159.Caregiver Conference Part I - Good News/Bad News - March 28, 2008

160.Caregiver Conference Part II - Anger Management - March 31, 2008

161. When the Distant Family Members Say You are Doing it All Wrong! - April 1/2, 2008

162. Normal in Public - My husband behaved perfectly in front of old friends and relatives, making me look like a liar - April 9, 2008

163.Joan in Dementialand - HELP! I am surrounded by dementia - April 10, 2008

164.Washington DC - Here We Come - Information on the Alzheimer's Public Policy Forum - I am going to represent all of us.- April 11, 2008

165. A Poem of Communication - A reader's poem about her sadness at the loss of communication with her husband - April 12, 2008

166. Unconventional Solution for the Disappearing Conversation - Online dating for conversation? - April 14, 2008

167.Alzheimer Rage - Understanding the causes of rage that turns your spouse into a different person - April 15, 2008

168. Stories for Washington DC - Send me your stories to bring to Washington - April 17, 2008

169. Doctors Feeding Denial - The doctors who see our spouses for ailments other than Alzheimer's - they don't see them often enough to know what is really going on - April 18, 2008

170. Healing Tears - The value of expressing grief and mourning - April 19/20, 2008

171. The Alzheimer Cure - A tongue in cheek look at a humorous experience that we named "the Alzheimer Cure." - April 21, 2008

172. Announcements - HBO special; Project Lifesaver; Appearance at a conference panel - April 22, 2008

173. The Universal Language of AD Spouses - We understand each other - April 23, 2008

174.Basic Caregiver Tips -What they really mean for spouses - April 24, 2008

175. Lessons from Dr. Teena Cahill's Lecture - making a difference through caregiving - April 26/27, 2008

175, Remembering and Caring for the Positives in Your Spouse - another lesson from Dr. Cahill- April 28/29, 2008

176. Appreciating the Spouse We Have - April 30, 2008

177. Entering the World of AD - Another lesson learned about patience - May 1, 2008

178. Something Different/Something Fun - Try these activities with your spouse - May 2, 2008

179.Dealing with AD Spousal Insults and Taunting- May 5, 2008

180. Ignorance is Bliss? - Are our spouses better off than us because they forget what stressed them ?- May 6, 2008

181. You Are Not Alone - All spouses understand - May 7, 2008

182. Doomed to Develop AD - No more conflicting studies for me!- May 8, 2008

183. An Important Letter to Take to the Airport/Congratulations to Reader Ruth for being named Senior Citizen of the Year for her work on Project Lifesaver - May 9, 2008

184. Long Term Spousal Caregiving - Is the toll too much? - May 10/11,2008

185. Washington DC Bound - On my way to the Alzheimer's Public Policy Forum - May 12/13, 2008

186. Joan and Tony go to Washington - Update - May 15/16, 2008

187. Alzheimer's Disease Emotional Impact on Spouses - The Importance of Raising Awareness - Part I from the DC forum - FRIDAY, MAY 16, 2008

188.Early Onset Alzheimer's Disease (EOAD) - The Silent Disease - Raising Awareness – DC Forum II– MAY 17/18, 2008

189. The Voice of Dementia- A perspective from the other side to help us understand our spouses- DC Forum III - May 19, 2008

190. Marriage, Sexuality, and Alzheimer's Disease - May 20, 2008

191. Possible Drug Trial for Sid - May 21/22, 2008

192. To Be an AD Spouse is a Constant Learning Process - May 23, 2008

193. The New Cell Phone - Who will help me figure it out now that my AD husband can no longer understand the manuals - May 24-26, 2008

194. I am Sinking Into the World of AD - No way out - May 27, 2008

195. Undetected Early Alzheimer's Disease - A cause of divorces? - May 28, 2008

196.FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) Lists for Our Spouses - May 29, 2008

197. Someone Stop Me Please!- I'm thinking about getting a dog - May 30, 2008

198. Dog Dilemma Part II - Some serious issues to consider - May 31 - June 1, 2008

199. The Country of AD - a poem by our reader that says it all - June 2, 2008

200.Why Do I Have to Do it NOW? -a question from all AD spouses - June 4, 2008

201.Couples Facing the Challenge of Living With Memory Loss - Part I from Caregiver Conference - June 7/8, 2008

202. Music to Enhance Language and Memory - Part II from the Caregiver Conference - June 9, 2008

203. Becoming Less a Spouse and More a Caregiver - June 10, 2008

204.SPECIAL TRIBUTE TO RANDY MCADAMS - A tribute to a reader's husband who lost his battle with Alzheimer's Disease - June 11, 2008

205. Now I am a Liar - My spouse doesn't trust me that I am telling him the truth - June 12, 2008

206. The Memory Walk Awards Breakfast - Our team won!- June 13, 2008

207. Our Spouses; our Childrens' Fathers - we honor them on Father's Day - June 14/15, 2008

208. Despair and Hope - June 16, 2008

209. How Much Hurt Do We Have to Endure in the name of Alzheimer's Disease - June 17, 2008

209. Alzheimer Spouses in The Valley of the Dolls - June 18, 2008

210. A Lull in the Storm - June 19/20, 2008

211. The Comfort Zone - This website as a place of comfort to speak your mind on spousal issues - June 21/22, 2008

212. A Spouse With Alzheimer's Disease - What has been the most difficult loss for you? - June 23, 2008

213.Elan Infusion Trial - Our First Day - June 24, 2008

214.My Emotional Meltdown - June 25, 2008

215. Becoming a One Car Family - The catalyst for trouble - June 26, 2008

216. Communication Breakdown - More fuel for marital destruction - June 27, 2008

217. Time Out - I have to take a break from the emotional turmoil - June 28/29, 2008

218. One Day at a Time - A new twist - June 30/July 1, 2008

219. I've Accepted the Change in our Relationship - Now tell me how to live with it - July 2, 2008

220. An Initial Success in Dealing with the Disease instead of the old relationship - July 3, 2008

221.A Respite from Stress - Some fun videos to put a smile on your face - July 4th weekend, 2008

221. Overt Resentment at having to make all of the concessions - July 7, 2008

222. The True Picture of Alzheimer's Disease - The world needs to know - July 8, 2008

223.The Driving Issue is Settled - Fireworks after the 4th of July - July 9, 2008

224.Counseling to Help us Through the End of Driving - July 11, 2008

225.Taking a Break from the Stress - Updates and Announcements - July 12/13, 2008

226. First Anniversary of The Alzheimer Spouse Website - July 14, 2008

227. How Much Torture Must I Endure? - July 15, 2008

228.The Fearless Caregiver Conference - July 16, 2008

229. How to Help Your Spouse as Alzheimer's Disease Shreds Their Self Esteem - July 17-18, 2008

230. My Caregiver Cruise Party - The importance of socialzation for you and your spouse - July 21, 2008

231. The AD Devil Takes Possession of My Husband - when the driving is revoked - July 22, 2008

232. The Alzheimer Devil Takes a Coffee Break - The momentary calm after the driving storm - July 24, 2008

233.The Doctor Visit - My depressed, rage filled AD husband tells the doctor, "I'm Fine". - July 25, 2008

244. Our Drug Trial Information - July 26-27, 2008

245. Joan's Doing All of the Driving - To quote Dr. Phil - "How's that working for you? " - July 28, 2008

246. Appreciating Life's Simple Pleasures - A poem of How Life is Measured - July 29, 2008

247. Enveloped in Sadness - July 30/31, 2008

248. The Psychiatrist Visit - Not the best experience we've ever had - August 1, 2008

249.New Updated information for the Newly Diagnosed and New to the Website - chock full of resources - August 2/3, 2008

250. Alzheimer's Disease - A Disease of Both Spouses - August 4, 2008

251.Cruising - Looking forward to the Stress Management Cruise - a wonderful respite from all the anxiety and stress - August 5, 2008

252. The Pros and Cons of Joan Doing all of the Driving - August 6, 2008

253. Words of Inspiration from readers and authors - August 7, 2008

254. What Will Company Think - that I am a lying drama queen - August 8, 2008

255. Becoming the Lone Decision Maker - Sad and lonely - August 11, 2008

256. Humor in the Midst of Pain - A funny experience from the drug trial session - August 13, 2008

257. The Energizer Bunny Caregiver Keeps on Going..................Straight to the hospital - August 14, 2008

258.Getting My Chance to Spread the Word about Alzheimer's Disease and its Effect on Marriages - updates on coming attractions - August 15-17, 2008

259. Not Cut Out to Be a Caregiver - Doubts faced by all spouses - August 18, 2008